Thursday, 11 June 2015

SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE OR MARRIAGE BEFORE SEX - WHERE DO YOU BELONG

By Segun Alaka

One of the greatest headaches of many young ladies in relationship is the issue of SEX. While they find themselves entangled in love, they also would not want to offend God by fornicating. 

Meanwhile, most young men of today are always demanding sex before marriage as a proof of
love. If a lady denies her boyfriend (fiance) sex, he tends to think she either does not love him or she is seeing another guy. And this throws the lady into so much confusion. She genuinely loves the guy but wouldn't want to give in to sex. If she denies him, she may lose him and if she gives
in too she disobey God. Sorry to our ladies.


Gentleman, please know that it is absolutely a lie from the pit of hell that if your fiancee does not give you sex it shows she doesn't love you. How
can you use sex as a LOVEMETRE? Have you never slept with ladies you didn't truly love? If you haven't then let me tell you that many people
are having sex with people they never love. And the men are themselves the worst culprits. If sex is a proof of love then we have to conclude that prostitutes love all the men they sleep with. If sex is a proof of love then we have to go about sleeping with our best friends and even family members to show how deeply we love them.


Even married couples, do not have sex to prove their love. They rather have sex because sex is part of marriage and it is meant for both procreation and recreation - child birth and
enjoyment. Don't you know that there are married couples who are not genuinely in love but they still have sex as a matter of duty or just for
cover-ups? Surely, sex plays a major role in love affairs. But Eccl 3:1 says, "For everything there is a season..." It is never the right season to have sex
in a relationship. This is because sex is a blood covenant between husband and wife not boyfriend and girlfriend. Gen. 4:1 says, "Adam knew his wife". It does not say "Adam knew his girlfriend". Stop going that far with the lady. If you want to know about a woman's love for you sex is never
the answer. Leave her alone to serve God right for your own sake if you truly want to marry her. Song of Songs 2:7 says, "I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelle...that you
AWAKEN NOT LOVE UNTIL IT IS TIME".
The gazelle is a very swift animal. It runs at least 96 km per hour. Bible compares romance to the gazelle.

If you start romance at the wrong time
you may crush because you will not be able to stop it from running your life at top speed. So until you are married, don't AWAKEN LOVE. Sex has been the main reason for most broken hearts
and disappointments. Sex is called love-making because it involves the
body, soul and spirit. 

Do you want your soul and spirit to be tied to somebody who is not married to you? Can you stand the consequences, Mr. Young Man? Hear the Bible: "O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows, DO NOT SPEND YOUR STRENGTH ON WOMEN, YOUR VIGOUR ON THOSE WHO DESTROY KINGS." (Prov. 31:2)


Sex before marriage can destroy you, even your Christian life. The funny thing is that it is the Brothers in Christ who are always worrying the Sisters in Christ for sex. So God says, "My
son...son of my vow". You are a son of God so don't waste your energy on women. You should rather be teaching her chastity and help her serve God well.


Seeking love from sex is like looking for Jesus in an empty tomb. Take it easy. When you marry you will be fed up with sex. Your wife will be chasing you with it and you will be running away, saying, "Oh I'm tied, why?". Take time okay, there is more sleep after death. How many rounds do you want? Wait patiently. It will soon be laid at
your doorstep and you will notice how stupid it is to chase sex when you are not married. If you want a woman to prove her love to you, allow her some space to be herself. Do not force
your will on her or control her. Her love, by nature, will push her to do things that will signal to you that you are her top priority. She will be ready to marry you, than just have fun with you. She will not be interested in you showering things on her but rather, she would want both of you to set your life and future right. She will support
your dreams and visions and help you build up your Christian life. In fact, she will exhibit the spirit of humility and you will also discover she is a precious jewel in a glass jar, reserved for you
alone.


So from today, even if she herself brings sex, tell her..."Do not awaken love until it is time." And if you guys love each other, plan about marrying
and submit your plans to God. He will bless it and put you two together as one.

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